REAL TALK, REAL THERAPY,

REAL GROWTH

WHEN LIFE GETS REAL, YOUR THERAPY SHOULD BE JUST AS RAW—NO FILTERS, JUST HONEST AF HEALING.

Cut through the B.S and get right to the root of what's been holding you back from living your best damn life with EMDR Therapy Intensives!

Jessica Brooks, LMHC   

Certified EMDR Therapist

You've read the self-help books, do all the things, even tried therapy, BUT nothing seems to get to the root of what is keeping you stuck in the f*ckery. 

 

You’ve probably heard it a million times — “Wow, you’re so strong! You handle so much!” Cool, thanks — but let’s be so for real: being "the strong one" feels less like a flex and more like a fucking cage.
 
Even when someone offers help, your autopilot response is, “Nah, I got it.” So the thought of spilling your messy ass tea to a stranger? Feels about as fun as a root canal. But here’s the truth — you deserve a space where you’re not the only one doing all the heavy lifting.

Therapy doesn't have to suck!

Hi, I'm Jessica.

I get that therapy can be scary AF and spilling your guts to a stranger doesn't exactly sound like a blast. If you’ve got a past that’s more chaotic than a dumpster fire, you’re not alone. Many of my clients have been through it—crazy family dynamics, addiction, abuse, emotional neglect, you name it. 

 

  • Past trauma that’s been weighing you down

  • Toxic AF relationships that have left scars

  • The overwhelming stress of daily life

 

We’ll tackle all that shit—together.

I don’t just rely on textbooks or my clinical training—I’ve been in the client seat, sitting raw and exposed in front of a total stranger, fumbling my way through the healing process.  It felt like being naked with my clothes on, vulnerable as hell. BUT—it was worth every ounce of unease, every awkward pause, and every tough conversation.

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Break Free from the Bullsh*t

Relationship Wounds & Trauma:

 

Let me guess, others have had it worse so you’re hesitant to call it “trauma”. Yet, deep down, you know life and relationships have been hard AF, with some unbearable sh*t along the way and you often find yourself dating the same person, different face and reliving WTF moments.

Low Self-Esteem & Imposter Syndrome: 

 

I bet you're an overachiever who's worth has been tied to productivity since you were a kid. Now that straight-A overachiever is a woman pulling 12-hour days for a quick hit of “You’re amazing!” validation while secretly worried "they're  going to figure out you're a fraud."

Complex PTSD & Attachment Trauma:

 

I assume childhood a dumpterfire. You were too busy the "parent" at a yound age  intead of being a kid that you learned to survive by trying to control the shitshow.  So now you micromanage everything and everyone in a desperate attempt to feel safe from your own emotional clusterfuck.

THERAPIES & PRACTICES TO HELP YOU GET YOUR SH*T TOGETHER 

Trauma-informed therapy is the core of my therapy practice. It’s like therapy with a GPS to where all the fuckery lives. It takes into account the messy AF dumper fire of your experience, without the judgment or the pressure to “just get over it” at some subjective pace.

 

Trauma-informed therapy goes beyond the surface and focuses on understanding how trauma affects every part of your lived experience and influences your current decisions. Think about it this way, a trauma-informed therapist is fluent in the unspoken language of trauma—knowing how to navigate triggers, avoid re-traumatization, and respect your process without pushing you into areas that feel unsafe.  

 

This isn’t therapy with a sprinkle of empathy—it’s a whole-ass process that prioritizes your safety, empowerment, and trust, acknowledging that your reactions aren’t just random AF but rather that they’re rooted in pure survival.

 

In my trauma-informed therapy practice, I take a direct yet compassionate AF approach. I recognize that trauma isn’t just a memory—it’s something your body and mind still carry, long after the events have passed. It’s not just about what happened to you, but also what didn’t happen—the safety, love, or support you needed but never got. And that kind of unmet need can be just as heavy to carry as the trauma itself.

 

Trauma shows up in ways you might not even realize—chronic tension, exhaustion, gut issues, difficulty trusting others, looking for an exit no matter where you are or constantly feeling on edge for no clear reason. It’s not just in your thoughts; it’s in the way your body flinches, shuts down or stays in fight-or-flight mode even when you’re “safe.”

 

That’s why my approach goes beyond just talking about it. Using EMDR reprocessing and EMDR Intensives, somatic awareness, and nervous system regulation techniques, we work on releasing trauma where it’s stored, so you can stop just surviving and finally start feeling safe, present, and in control of your life again. This is how you truly live life on your own damn terms and I'm here for it!!

E.M.D.R

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) helps you process stuck trauma — the kind that replays in your head like a bad song. Using bilateral stimulation (like eye movements or tapping), we revisit the shitty memories so your brain can reprocess them without the gut punch. In my practice, feeling safe every step of the way is top priority — no fluff, just effective AF trauma healing so you can finally live life on your own damn terms. Learn more HERE

Attachment-Based

Attachment-based approaches are all about understanding the deep-rooted ways your early relationships shaped how you connect (or struggle to connect) with others and yourself today. They dig into the patterns that keep you stuck in unhealthy relationships or feeling disconnected.

 

We work together to untangle the shitstorm of old wounds and unmet needs, helping you build healthier, more secure attachments and rewrite the script on how you show up for yourself and others unapologetically. 

D.B.T

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is like the ultimate toolkit for managing the chaos of intense emotions and impulsive behaviors.

 

It helps you build skills in four key areas: mindfulness, emotional regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness. Whether you're dealing with overwhelming AF feelings, self-destructive habits, or relationship drama, we’ll work together to develop practical strategies that help you stay grounded, handle tough situations without flipping your shit, and communicate more effectively so you can make the changes you need to kick life in the face.

C.B.T

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is all about flipping the script on those negative thought patterns that have you stuck in life's cycle of bullshit. It helps you identify and challenge the unhelpful beliefs that are dragging you down.

 

While I personally feel that CBT alone can't heal the deep rooted shit, it does allow us to dig into the connection between your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This will help you think in a way that’s more balanced and less self-sabotaging. And that's always a win!

Ready to Dive In?

 

Super excited you're considering me to ride along side you on this wild AF journey of healing!

 

At the moment, the only openings I have are for EMDR Therapy Intensives.  If you’re ready for deep, focused work and faster results, an intensive might be exactly what you need.

 

However, if an EMDR Intensive isn’t the right fit for you, I totally get it. You’re more than welcome to join the waitlist for weekly or bi-weekly sessions. Please keep in mind that I can’t guarantee when an opening will become available as I currently have a full caseload.

 

If you need more immediate support and don’t want to wait, I highly recommend checking out Psychology Today, Headway, and Grow Therapy to find a therapist in your area with availability. You can also check out My Therapists Peeps in SWFL  nor can I reach out on your behalf or vouch for their specific therapy process. Finding the right therapist is personal, and I want you to feel confident in your choice—so I encourage you to connect with them directly to see if they’re the right fit for you.

 

Finding the right fit takes time, but you deserve support, so don’t hesitate to explore your options.

 

If you’re looking for a way to start healing now, an EMDR Therapy Intensive could be the best option to fast-track your progress while you explore other therapy options. So you can walk away with stronger self-compassion, healthier relationships, and the ability to break toxic patterns like a pro. You’ll finally feel seen, validated, and unapologetically YOU.

 

If you’re still interested in joining my waitlist, sign up below.

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Attachment-Based Therapy:

What It Is & Why It Might Be Your New Bestie.

 

 

EMDR Therapist in SWFL, EMDR Intensives, Hyper Independent Woman

 

 

 

Ever found yourself in a relationship that's a hot mess express, wondered why you keep attracting the same kind of emotionally unavailable douche-canoe, like your childhood left you with more baggage than a Kardashian on vacation or, the messiest of them all that basically has you feeling like a ping pong ball bouncing between stage 5 clinger and cold as ice.
 
I like to refer to that one as The Total Clusterfuck:  Disorganized. Makes shit interesting let me tell ya!
 

 

 

What Is Attachment-Based Therapy? 

 

Attachment-Based Therapy is rooted in the idea that how you learned to attach or, more likely, how you didn't learn to attach, to your caregivers as a kid is now playing the starring role in your adult relationships and, honestly, your whole damn life.

 

 

No judgement here, my dating history before my own EMDR healing journey could of been a Netflix Jerry Springer Series with multiple seasons!

 

 

 

John Bowlby created this Attachment Theory, with the underlying idea that we all have this deep, primal need to bond with our caregivers and if that bond was solid, awesome, you probably trust people. If it wasn't? Well fuck, you might be somewhere on the spectrum of clingy AF to emotionally walled-off like Fort Knox.

 

 

 Spoiler alert: Even if you think you've got your shit together, or you were like that in your last relationship, there might be some attachment issues playing hide and seek in the background. My guess is, it's that little disorganized fucker.

 

 

 

 

Why care about all this attachment mumbo jumbo?

 

Because is can help you connect the dots between your early attachment experiences and how you show up in relationships today. This is where the inner child and parts work come out to play. It's like looking at the root cause through a microscope instead of just slapping a Band-Aid on the wound only to keep reopening it. Understanding the "why" behind your patterns, can be the very shift that changes the entire trajectory of your life.  At least it was for me!

 

 

 

Story Time...

 

I was in my late-twenties when the clusterfuck of my dating life finally took it's toll. I remember it vividly. I had full on nervous breakdown in the kitchen uncontrollably crying to my mom. As a single mother of two who just had to move back home with my folks for the third time since I was 19, the feeling of defeat was too intense to bare.  Something had to change!  It wasn't until later in my healing journey I realized that the "something" was actually a "someone".  

 

 

There was ONE common denominator in my entire dating history... ME!

And I was disorganized AF in the attachment department!

 

 

That was one hell of a hard pill to shallow, because I could no longer avoid the fact that I too was toxic, playing a part in this dynamic of dating fuckery that was literally destroying me to my core.

 

I now know that this was my breakthrough which changed everything, as it was the catapult that sent me flying desperately into the therapy office and that beautiful therapist soul introduced me to EMDR, which flipped the scripted on my entire understanding of myself and life.

 

 

 

 

 

How Attachment-Based Therapy Can Help You Heal from the Shit Storm:

 

1. Breaking the Toxic AF Cycle
 

Ever asked yourself  “Why does this keep happening to me?"  I'd put money on it you’re stuck in the same toxic relationship patterns and understanding your attachment struggles can help you recognize and break these cycles of fuckery.

 

Here’s the thing:  when you’ve been programmed since childhood to expect relationships to be chaotic, distant, or just plain shitty,  you end up subconsciously seeking that out in your adult relationships because it feels familiar. I know sounds fucked up but it's what the brain does.

 

It is looking for comfort in the known, even if the known is totally fucked. An attachment based style of therapy dives into those old narratives, giving you the space to sit in the uncomfortable parts so you can rewrite the script.

 

We're taking a magnifying glass to the dysfunctional behaviors you’ve been repeating that are causing your significant distress—whether it’s being easy prey for partners who treat you like absolute dog shit or ghosting someone at the first sign of emotional intimacy— you can start figuring out where it all came from.

 

Then, instead of blaming yourself or thinking you’re doomed to keep making the same mistakes, you get the tools to change. Think of it like having a roadmap out of the toxic jungle of hell that you've been wandering in for years.

 

 

 

2. Build Better Relationships:

 

Whether you’re trying to figure out why you can’t trust a single fucking soul or what has you’re glued to people like Gorilla Glue, attachment based therapy helps you learn healthier ways to connect with others. The beauty of this understanding is that it doesn't leave you high and dry after pointing out these shitty patterns; it gives you a new playbook.

 

By understanding your attachment style—be it anxious, avoidant, or disorganized AF—you get a clearer picture of why you act the way you do in relationships.

 

Then, through therapy, you can practice new, healthier ways of relating to others and yourself. It's about learning to communicate better, setting approriate boundaries that don’t feel like brick walls, and open up in a way that doesn’t feel like you're sitting there naked with your clothes.

 

Imagine feeling secure AF in your relationships, without constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop—that's the kind of connection attachment based therapy can help you build.

 

 

 

 

3. Heal That Inner Crotch Goblin (Child):

 

It may sound cheesy as the inner child has become a buzz word BUT for good reasoning! If that little inner crotch goblin of yours is still running the show from behind the scenes, they are probably fucking shit up. And it's time to give them some love and boundaries.

 

Much of attachment based work is re-parenting your inner child and showing up as the parent or care taker you always wanted. I do a fuckton of this work with clients when we are doing EMDR and parts work.

 

Your inner child might be screaming for attention, acting out through jealousy, fear, or self-sabotage, which is the biggest sign an inner crotch goblin is running a muck. In attachment based therapy, you get to revisit those early experiences that shaped your attachment style and offer that inner child what they missed out on—whether that's reassurance, safety, or just the chance to be heard.

 

By addressing those unmet needs from your past, you can start showing up as a more integrated and less reactive version of yourself in the present moment. This process is all about healing those old wounds so they stop bleeding all over your current life.

 

 

 

4. Grow That Self-Awareness Muscle  

 

 

 

Therapy, in general, is a kick-ass mirror, but attachment based therapy is like a full-length, 360-degree view. You get to really see all of you and how your learned attachment is causing ruckus in your life. By highlighting where this is happening you can start making some shifts.

 

Self-awareness is a bitch; but it’s also the first step toward real change. Owning your part is not taking blame or saying things like "It's all my fault". It's actually quite the opposite. Attachment based therapy gives you the tools to not just see your patterns but understand them deeply.  

 

When you can recognize that your urge to ghost someone is your avoidant attachment flaring up or that your fear of being left or alone is linked to an inconsistent caregiver from your past that created this anxious attachment style, THAT is where the magic happens!

 

As we know, the only thing we can "control" is ourselves, so understanding where we gave away our personal power and how that played a part in perpetrating this toxic AF cycle, is the exact path to getting our personal power the fuck back!

 

It’s about taking approriate accountability for your healing and stepping out of the victim mindset. No more “this is just how I am” bullshit—Attachment based therapy is your invitation to get real about your shituationship and actually do something about it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

So, Is Attachment-Based Therapy for You??
 

If you’ve ever thought, “Why am I like this?” while scrolling through your ex’s Instagram or felt like your relationships are more of emotional rollercoasters from hell than stable connections, this type of therapy might be calling your name. It’s not a magic fix, but it’s a solid step towards understanding yourself and healing some of those old wounds that keep dragging you down.

 

At the end of the day, Attachment-Based Therapy is about learning to be the secure, badass version of yourself you were always meant to be.  And EMDR Intensives do just that! 

 

So, if you’re ready to dig in, get real, and do some deep-ass work on your attachment style, this might just be your new therapy BFF! If you're thinking we might be a good fit check out how we can work together HERE

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